People I 'meet' online are nice enough, but when I meet them in person quite a few seem rather annoyed and can't be bothered to talk or even be pleasant to me. Brand and company representatives seem very friendly online but then treat you like an inconvience in person. I would like to say it's because they are busy-tired-hung over but it is over the past two years or even the past few days. So many of them are only out for themselves and seem to forget the very people that are their 'purple cows' (Seth Godin-Google it lol).
If you SAY you are authentic and genuine as a brand or company then walk the walk. Don't forget your roots people – we have very long memories on the Internet and pretty thick skin. But a self-centered jerk is still a jerk. You can't use me for what I've accomplished online and in my career since 1997 and piss on me after you get what you want. /rant over
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they don't understand the word 'social' nor that dissing a fabulous woman is always a mistake.
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+Lynette Young sorry people are acting that way. What a downer eh? Hope you're having a blast otherwise!!!
Say it, sister !!!
lol…I'm actually much nicer in person than online 🙂
I could see myself having that experience, but not you +Lynette Young …
Even if I was a completely self serving type the marketer in my would dish out time to influencers…
great rant. you are the genuine article and you will outlast them all.
show em' how it's done lady ?
Do you think that people are just a bit shy in real life and that reads as aloof? I have been known to be a bit shy/introverted in person (depending on the situation and how intimidated I am by the person I am meeting) which I worry comes off as aloof when I am anything but!
You are so kind in person. That sucks that you have come across that treatment.
Stupid people! :rolls eyes:
Seriously? That's pretty rude and a HALF. I thought you were awesome in person, +Lynette Young 🙂 And everyone I met in NYC was pretty much who they presented themselves as.
i can relate to that +Vivienne Gucwa normally i'm cool as a cucumber but when i meet certain people i get nervous… glad that didn't happen when i met you OR +Lynette Young 🙂
I've been thinking about writing an article about something like this. ….
I would respond but I'm too busy ignoring you. LOL
No seriously, we've spoken of this before. So many fake social media schmoozers are only in it for the hits & the recognition. They don't give a crap about the social element. Whenever I go to an event and especially if I'm speaking at an event, I stay until I've answered the last person who wants to talk with me.
People need to remember, those that lift you up have the power to bring your ass right back down. I could name names, but I'd be here all day. And I'm sure you already know who they are.
I truly relate to your point on this matter that is exactly what people act like and its a shame ,it is very bad for business.
i thought i was the only person that this has happened to.
+Lynette Young you being at SXSW is one of only half a dozen reasons I wish I was there. The other 1,000,000,000 are why I am glad I stayed home. Just "watching" the panels on line made me glad I didn't go. Then again… I didn't get to see one with you on it.
I have the same experience in any big event/conferences more or less. THAT's why when someone is nice to you, you remember…
Welcome to SXSW. That whole mentality is one reason I don't go to such events… Sorry you got the cold shoulder +Lynette Young. Reminds me of a quote I read a while back about humility being a key ingredient in the recipe for success.
Guess a lot of the people at SXSW are too focused on brand-building and synergizing their core competencies in dynamic "2.0" environments to know what really matters…. people.
I have to agree with you +Lynette Young and openly declare that you do walk your walk. It was really nice to chat with you yesterday and not feel like you're in a hurry to meet someone "more important" to take pictures with.
people MAKE social.
People be frontin'. SMH
Great post. It could be the better online vs. in person social skills, but I have seen the same in life as well. Hopefully the rest of SXSW will be better.
Perhaps the "social" part of "Social Networking" is overstated (as others have commented here). People just use these platforms for self-branding and self-aggrandizement? I started off on the self-branding kick with Blogger, Facebook and Twitter. When I joined G+, I realized that this platform is something different. For me, G+ is about sharing, debating and learning. It only works if you engage and be yourself. I promise to HUG anyone who is in my circles if I meet them IRL!
I am sometimes better communicating online at times, but I like to jump at a chances to socialize in public. Besides social networking can be overrated at times and anyone can pretend to be anything which is why you probably had the problem you did.
boo, for jerks, +Lynette Young 🙁 sorry for the negative experience.
Love the rant. It all balances out in the end. They truly may want to wake up.
These people are perhaps note nice at all IRL?
Cupid sales reps (most of them) are less pleasant when they see they can't sell you anything.
Unfortunately, I don't know why you're surprised. We now live in a world where most people would rather communicate online. I'm still bucking the trend and actually speaking to other humans.
I am happy that I am still single
And I guarantee they are smart, college graduates. I'm sure they can code, write killer spreadsheets, and multitask to no end.
But if you are not naturally social, you have no business representing a company's social media efforts.
Even if you can fake it online, if you can't happily work in:
Any customer service field
Any face-to-face environment
Any job, where you have to work as a contributory team member
You should not be in social media
Klout scores don't matter
Numbers of followers don't matter
Amount of social networks you are on Don't Matter
Especially in Google Plus where the most powerful tool is face to face interaction via hangouts.
… sorry, this has been brewing for a while, but this was the thing that brought it out.
Sorry for the experience +Lynette Young, but it sparked something in me!! Article in +Media Tapper to follow!!!
+Jake Croston I can't wait for the article, and I ditto everything you said!
Thanks +Maria Stepanov Sommerfield!
+Lynette Young
I can so relate.
I had a bad experience like that at CeBit that I will have to talk about sometime.
I had a mini rant about the fake niceness online earlier, in the comments to a post. It is one of the downsides of social sites, I would much rather hear from a persons authentic self than the facade, even when we disagree. Hope you're running into some non-jerks as well.
I've unfortunately run into that too. It's really sad, but yes…those impressions stick with you for a VERY long time.
Like everywhere, there are cliques, and pricks. Further many people are trying to personify social media, rather than seeing it as a tool or pathway to… other people.
Are you in Texas??
I love this. So funny.
I love you Lauren 🙂 but not why you might think….
+Lynette Young Just name the names. I have no idea why you like me, but this behavior from these losers doesn't surprise me.
+Lynette Young Really hoped that I had met you. Hope and pray that the remainder of your experience at sxsw show a bit more of our Southern Hospitality. Again, my apologies.
+Lynette Young I found the opposite to be true when I met you! 🙂
Oh it's not the locals, they are awesome !
+Lynette Young Eye opening isn't it?
I see similar things happen online all the time, some people will interact quickly when the other person has a big following, but if you have no following then you get crickets.
I've never been to SXSW but I've attended plenty of other trade shows. Do they do that thing where they talk to your name badge and not at you? LOL
That's why I like google hangouts, it's almost like meeting in person! Looking forward to blogWorld and hoping everyone is genuine!
This is why any talk of "authenticity" goes right over my head. White noise. You are or you aren't. Your physical presence and engagement shows it all. (Sorry you're having that experience there. I was overwhelmed when I went, can't say I made any meaningful new connections but did have fun with people I already knew.)
F'n Businesses are missing out BIG TIME b/c +Lynette Young is awesome & has a voice + audience to do some eye opening!! We're behind ya Purps!
ya good…..
You are all so sweet. I am very VERY shy in person especially around people I consider famous & people that are generally way more cool/fun than me. Getting around in a massive crowd of people is difficult for me, but I'm hopefully at least pleasant!
It just grinds me when people aren't what they create online.
hey ur hair look so young technologically
quite true many ppol on net r nice but as soon as u get contact in person u know how unsecure they are and seem not to open up as expected after all this is virtual world which makes the difference
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hey!how are u?am new young man to google please tell me welcome.
Sounds like a job for The Online Business League 🙂
+Lynette Young I have to say, before meeting you I actually thought you wouldn't give me the time of day. But after meeting you at #nycHIRL , I was relieved to find that you are down to earth, and so much fun! Don't ever change. Not even for these online scavengers.
I can't believe I missed this post.
It grinds me too when people aren't what they portray online. People keep saying that people are the same in RL as they are in hangouts online. NOT true. I have met some people on the hirls I've been on who either looked totally different, or acted brand new to me in person. Whether or not it turned out to be a positive or a negative experience is another story for another thread 🙂